Happy New Year!

In the words of Dr Phil, whose advice delayed my asking for a divorce by six months:

Have you done everything you can to save and rehabilitate your marriage?

Do you have unfinished emotional business? 

Have you researched, planned, and prepared yourself legally and financially?

Are you ready to adopt a new standard of conduct with your children? 

Are you willing to create a new relationship as a co-parent? 

If you can't answer yes to all these questions, pause, take a moment and work on answering yes. It won't guarantee you an easier divorce, but it will mean you have done your best and one day your divorced self will thank you.