Two best friends, two cheating husbands, two very different divorce experiences; one easy and one that took four years. They quickly learnt how hard it was to navigate and created The ExExperts.
Barry Selby from my previous interview suggested I reach out to TH and Jessica, and I am glad I did. These women have very different characters, and different stories especially post-divorce, but they got to go through it together and this experience has given them insight into how lonely and scary divorce can be.
I was lucky enough to have a private call with T.H, who candidly shares her own story on their podcast Divorce etc. She knew her marriage wasn't great, but little did she know her husband was having an affair with a woman who believed he was already divorced. It was this woman who called her one day, innocently, that opened her Pandora's box and 'saved my life.' T.H's life became a rollercoaster ride that proved costly, exhausting and taught her lessons that she never saw coming. Her ex cheated on her, yet put her through the wringer, and she is not afraid nor ashamed to get vocal about any part of it. T.H is genuine, compassionate, empathetic, and fighting for you in your corner. She asks the questions we don't know we need to ask because she has been through it all. Not only did her ex make the process difficult, long, and painful, but her lawyer financially benefitted from their battle- significantly.
With the divorce rate around 48%, there are plenty of stories showing how people feel lonely and isolated, especially when everyone they know is still a couple. There is still a societal shaming by peers or family for not staying together and it can be daunting knowing where to start. Start with T.H and Jessica, these women are your Ghostbusters of divorce. You get to turn up, be heard, understood, and empowered for what you could face in the future. They won't judge you but they will tell you the hard facts. I regularly listen to their podcast, and even though I am divorced and no longer in need of advice, I wish I had had them in my life. The advice is timeless.
Divorce affects you emotionally, socially, financially, and often physically. You will want to lean on your lawyer as your therapist. T.H says again and again,
Don't use your lawyer as your therapist, it costs money, use us. We get it, we've been there.
Divorce is sold as a finite destination, but when you have children that couldn't be further from the truth. You will have to learn to communicate with the very person you have just gone to war with, and as the dynamics change, possibly a partner too. Your kids will need you to have every tool in your box to keep them from being in the middle of this battle or at least help them get through the changes they face. The ExExperts want to make this as easy as possible for you and your family by showing you options of how to do things differently.
We are here to educate and support you on this journey.
T.H blew my mind away with her immense knowledge about divorce. I learnt that in the US every State has its own divorce laws. New York has one of my favourites, the infidelity clause. If your partner has an affair and spends money on jewellery, dinners, trips, whatever, when you are dealing with financials you are entitled to 50% of the money spent, including Airmiles! This is the share that should have been yours in the first place.
I have been told this sounds like a sponsored article. It is not. I am a fan of T.H and Jessica and how they are helping people navigate this overwhelming space.
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