by Me

I am a child of divorce, and I am divorced. I write real stories so you can learn from real experiences. Divorce is never easy and impacts family, friends and even colleagues.

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End of Our Marriage

We Look So Perfect. Look Again

Supporting your child

The Academic School Year Check List: Do it Now.

The education system is rigged so that mothers will get all phone calls as they 'prefer not to disturb the father at work.'

Office Romance

From CEO to Meme: Andy Byron & Kristin Cabot's Kiss Cam Reveal.

Without knowing any details of this relationship, I have to ask myself what they were thinking? Many will say they weren't, but I am calling BS on this

Divorce aha moment

When was your 'I want a Divorce' moment?

I saw my husband eyeing up younger women by the pool, almost salivating.

Child of Adultery

There is an Elephant in the Room, and that Elephant is Me.

I want to stop this pattern where I self-destruct

Father's Day

Happy Father's Day!

I know that most of you see less of your children than you would like, that you miss out on the small moments and feel forgotten.

Children of Divorce

My Thoughts About Co-Parenting During Exam Stress.

I want your child not to be scared to tell you, 'I need one room and one schedule whilst I am studying and taking exams'.Would you be offended?

Expert Series

Discovering Your Desires: A Conversation with an Intimacy Expert

The lack of physical intimacy is a known force for divorce. Before you throw in the towel, know that there are professionals who focus on this issue.

Divorce Catalysts

Divorce Catalysts: Financial Infidelity & the Erosion of Trust

I am not here to judge you, but this is a nudge you should not ignore.

Children of Divorce

As a child of divorce, I am Outstanding at Packing.

I never felt wanted at my father's home on weekend 'visits'

Step Mother

My Bedroom or Hers?

One dinner party I heard Isabella laugh that out loud that at least I wasn't sleeping in the cupboard under the stairs

Mother's Day

Mother’s Day: My Experience as the 'Disappointing' Child.

What does Mother's Day mean to you?

History of Divorce

Divorce in Rome 2BCE was as easy as 'tuas res tibi habeto'- (keep your property to yourself).

In Ancient Egypt marriage and divorce were seen as private contracts. Men and women had rights to dissolve the marriage and property and wealth were divided. You could cite dissatisfaction as a reason.

Marriage Trauma

I Should Never Have Put a Ring on It: Now I am trapped.

It was a warning sign that I ignored, and who doesn't want to be adored? I spent way too many years with her having my ego stroked when her bestie said 'Don't you think it's time you manned up and put a ring on her finger?'

Childhood Healing

Family Dinners Cause me Anxiety.

The silence between mum and dad was eerie. A sigh here, a cough there. A gulp and a small pat on the thigh.

Valentine's Day

Valentine Who?

I learnt a few weeks ago about a trend that is gaining traction called 'Me First', or 'First Me', or 'Put Me First'- which started in 2022 and went viral. Yes, it's predominantly owned by the youth, but hey, maybe they are onto something.

Expert Series

Navigating the Complexities of Divorce? A Family Lawyer Shares Valuable Advice.

It appears that women, mothers, tend to want to finish everything as quickly as possible to avoid conflict. They believe this will protect the kids,

Protecting your future

WeNup. Online Prenup and Postnups made easy.

Both parties come to the table with full disclosure of their assets. It can be daunting for some, but it also creates vulnerability and transparency. It is a place where couples get to voice their needs, ideals and concerns about the future.

Adultery & Infidelity

I continue to cheat on my wife

I know she will smell them and check the pockets for clues- it's only natural. Being caught gave me new skills to not get caught again

Divorce Reflections

Some thoughts about divorce as we come to the end of 2024.

The stigma of divorce is very much alive at work and with friends and family.

Children of Divorce

Why can't he sign my birthday card?

He does this thing where he drives by late at night and pops it through our letterbox like he is a weird version of Santa.

Emotional Abuse

I never realised I was In danger until she asked if I was OK.

When the twins started senior school, I studied for a degree in something he 'approved' of. After all, he was paying the fees and wasn't going to waste a penny on me learning something worthless.

Childhood Abuse Featured

She told me my father didn’t love me enough to stay.

My mother abused the very part of me that was my father, and he presumed me to be my mother, I was disliked immensely by both parents till the day they died

Adultery & Infidelity

I am madly in love with my ex-wife.

Life got harder and we couldn't catch our breath to repair the cracks that were forming under the extreme pressure of life. We loved each other, that was not the issue and still isn't.

Adultery & Infidelity

She told me her divorce was simple. I learnt otherwise.

The wedding was beautiful, the party was fun, and still there lingered a sense of why did he wait so long? She shelved her grievances until one night....